Our host Chris Harrison: “Two women left it tears. Brad remains a Bachelor. It was the ending the shocked America.”
I beg to differ my friend. Check out my blog. About a thousand people guessed that he wouldn’t pick either girl on the comments page. America is not THAT shocked.
But America is pretty pissy. And America wants answers!
Things we learned from last night’s After the Final Rose:
1. Trista and Ryan are still made for each other.
Our first Bachelor success couple made their way to the stage wearing jeans and t-shirts. They are so over this Bachelor thing, they don’t even feel the need to dress up. Trista, carrying cute baby Max, talks about how Ryan was climbing a mountain in Argentina when she found out she was pregnant. She discusses the show with Uncle Chris says she feels bad for everyone. I thought Ryan was mute until he took the baby and talked about throwing baseballs and catching frogs. He’s still hot. Not hotter than crap like Brad. But close.
2. Mary Mary and Butchwax are still together?
What in the world? Where did they dig them up? Mary Mary is a professional fisher woman now. I bet Butchwax loves that. Now they can be TOGETHER ALL THE TIME! There’s still a ring…and after two and a half years, there’s a date. November. I’m assuming 2008. I half expected Hanna Montana to come out and start singing to pimp her new album, but she didn’t. I guess Butchwax really isn’t Billy Ray Cyrus.
3. Jenni is going to be FINE!
Her sweet Grandma passed away two weeks ago. I feel she’s probably seeing life in a different perspective right now and could care less about Brad. ABC shows a touching montage of Grandma and I cry like a seven-year-old. Our host asks if she felt Brad was dishonest with her feelings. She graciously answers that there were little things that got her hopes up and concludes that when she saw DD get the boot, she was disappointed in Brad and lost a little respect for him.
4. I don’t know if you caught this while watching, but DD is confused. And maybe a touch angry. I’m just saying.
She expected a proposal. She doesn’t know what happened. She felt like her heart was stabbed. She thought it was rude for him to tell her he didn’t pick Jenni. She still has feelings. Pissed that he didn’t choose either one. Aggravated that he told Jenni that there was something missing, but she had the total package…and he STILL WALKED AWAY! WHY? SHE WANTS TO KNOW WHY!?! It’s not fair that she had to spend two months knowing he didn’t pick either girl. Torture for her to fake smile when people approached her and said, “I think he picks you!” But as stupid as it sounds, she still has a glimmer of hope that he won’t let her walk away for a second time.
5. Brad gets “booo’d” by the AFR audience. Nice. Now THAT is Bachelor history.
Brad says that it is hard to explain why he didn’t fall in love. He reminds us that his heart was broken too. He doesn’t have a formula for falling in love and didn’t want to give either girl false hope. There just weren’t any butterflies. We learn that ABC flew DD’s Dad out for Brad to get permission to marry her. AND IT WAS BRAD’S IDEA! He said up until the final moment he was desperately trying to make things happen. That’s why he bought the engagement ring. But a gut feeling told him it wasn’t right. He feels like a jerk. He knows he has problems. And for the record, he doesn’t have any children, is not gay and is not currently dating an ex-girlfriend.
6. Jenni wears cheeky hipster panties from Gap Body.
I know this because I saw her butt when she attacks Brad with a big huge hug. He whispers that he is sorry about her Grandma. She high fives him. He puts his arm around her, takes it away, puts his hand on her knee, takes it away. The audience laughs. Jenni calls it the friend pat. Our host Chris asks Jenni if she has any questions. And she asks the one we are all wondering. “If you had such strong feelings, what made you not want to take a chance on one of us?”
Exactly.
Brad says that it is hard to explain why he didn’t fall in love. He reminds us that his heart was broken too. He doesn’t have a formula for falling in love and didn’t want to give false hope. There just weren’t any butterflies. He thought he showed respect by walking away. Jenni doesn’t buy it and is convinced he is scared to commit.
7. DD is clearly not over Brad.
She looks like she’s going to choke him when she enters the stage. Very nervous, her question is the same as Jenni’s question. And our host’s question.
“You had two great girls. Most guys don’t even have one. Why couldn’t you choose?”
Brad says that it is hard to explain why he didn’t fall in love. He reminds us that his heart was broken too. He doesn’t have a formula for falling in love and didn’t want to give false hope. There just weren’t any butterflies.
DD rolls her eyes at our host Chris Harrison and asks him to please come up with another answer. She tells him that she was never led to believe that this wasn’t for real. He clears his throat and continues.
Brad: “There just wasn’t anything there.”
DD: (responding loudly) “BUT THERE WAS SOMETHING THERE! WHY WALK AWAY COMPLETELY?”
Brad: “I’m just as heartbroken as you are.”
DD: “Good. I’d like to think it breaks your heart for me to sit here and still be crying. I think of you every single day…what does that mean? You are still willing to let me walk away?”
Brad: “I’m confident in my decision.”
Lincee: Noooooooooo he didn’t.
DD: “Nothing makes sense…”
Brad: “Fair enough.”
Lincee: Is that an appropriate response? Could somebody bring Chad out here to fix this mess?
DD: “You are willing to let me walk out of your life a second time?”
Brad: “I can’t apologize for not falling in love.”
Long uncomfortable pause.
DD: “I need answers and closure and this still doesn’t make sense.”
Extremely long uncomfortable pause. Awkward. Very awkward. They still aren’t talking.
DD: “The one person I trusted broke my heart.”
LOTS OF SILENCE. This is pause is going on forever. Why isn’t someone talking? Our host Chris is torturing Brad. Seriously. I’ve just gotten up and made myself a turkey sandwich and they are starring in awkward silence.
Brad: “I swear that I thought I was taking the high road.”
DD: “I seriously thought you wouldn’t let me walk out again.”
It is at this point our host Chris Harrison finally jumps in and clues DD in:
OurHCH: “I don’t think you are ever going to get the answer you are looking for
DDAHnna.”
DD: “Apparently not.”
Ouch.
Then, idiot Brad hugs DD goodbye and whispers, “I’ll miss you more than you will ever know.”
Jerk.
A lot of people have asked me what I think about his decision…if he should have picked one girl after all of that. I have several theories I’m happy to share with you. Take your pick:
1. He truly was not in love and didn’t want to fake propose or fake date either girl. So why did he say what he said to each girl?
2. He doesn’t like people to be upset or mad at him. He’s an approval addict. Must be liked and loved by everyone. Is willing to do anything to keep that balance.
3. He definitely has commitment issues.
4. He is a romantic and believes that true love…the marrying kind…does not require any work. If butterflies are not there…it’s just not meant to be.
5. His business partners talked him into going on the show to get some publicity for the bars. I don’t think he became the Bachelor for free advertising. I think he agreed thinking it would be a nice bonus…should he find the woman of his dreams. His romantic fairy-tale dream woman. Kind of like Barbie or Cinderella.
6. I think he tried to be sincere, but it backfired.
So where does that leave us? Angry? Feeling like we wasted an entire Bachelor season with no payoff?
I say…eh.
It wasn’t that bad. This season brought us crazy Hillary and her BEEP’ing potty mouth. Sweet Sheena. A wonder twin switcheroo. Solista and her pole. Stephen King. And a hotter than crap Bachelor.
It was also the season I will forever remember as the one that pushed me to a million hits on my blogsite.
Now that is something to be thankful for!
I’m off to NYC. Got a message from Straight Guy # 1 that he is in the Big Apple too. We are going to meet at the top of the Empire State Building and discuss all things Bachelor. I’ll tell him you said hi.
Here’s hoping that the new Bachelor is not a chach and that the girls are just crazy enough for us to love them. For those of you who are only here for the Bachelor, I’ll see you next year. For those who are here for me, I’ll be posting on www.ihategreenbeans.blogspot.com a few times a week.
Until then, I’m all about the shame, not the game,
Lincee
147 comments:
To our fearless leader Lincee:
Thanks for another great season...and even though it sometimes doesn't end the way we'd like it to- you bring us back to reality (like "real" reality)- to remind us, that there will be another hot bachelor to drool over, and more drunken lushes to point and laugh over- and more drama and heartbreak in just a few short months. Until Spring...
(But DAMN that was awkward last night. ouch).
Your Fan,
EP
I love you Lincee....seriously. You are a hoot and you make my week during every bachelor season. It is Thanksgiving, and I am thankful for you this week. You bring so many smiles to so many faces. Thank you Lincee!
Another one of your fans,
SC
Lincee you are AWESOME!! I wish you could write a blog for all of my favorite shows!!!! Have a great Thanksgiving!
Great job Lincee. You keep us real and there is always the giddy promise of next season. Thanks for the humor and enjoy NYC - even if Broadway is black.
Thank you, Lincee! I truly feel bad for those girls. But you made the season worth watching.
Is that Cosmo guy really the next bachelor? He looks like a chach to me!
Your fan since the email days,
JSM
Great recap. I've enjoyed reading your witty retellings. You know what impressed me the most about last night? Both Jenni and Deanna were kind when speaking about each other. No bad mouthing and they each seemed genuinely distressed for the other. Nothing like a libertine cad to get very different girls to bond. He's pointless. I think the references to "getting help" mean his mama has lit into him as well. How could she not? If my son had sent such huge and public mixed signals to two lovely young women I'd beat him with a cast iron skillet. Seriously.
I vote Deanna, aka Blinky, for the next Bachelorette...aren't we overdue for a Bachelorette edition??
have fun in ny, just moved here and it's aaaaamazing.
p.s. all the hot ones are assholes...and he's 34 and single, what else did you people really expect from him? it's in the eyes, they were lying the whole time. i hope he finds a boyfriend soon. :) hope it was worth the bar business and college booty you're going to get now.
Lincee... you topped yourself this season! I'm glad you had so much to work with and I look forward to your blog next season. Not the show (which I will watch to get your jokes) but to your witty comments!
As to last night... Brad, you tried to take the high road, you tried to come out of this smelling like roses... but man, you bombed. Even people who were totally hating your final two now love them. Its not that you didn't propose. Its the HUGE mixed messages you sent to both ladies. And you continue to send. NOT COOL. I feel for the next girl who gets all star struck and thinks she's going to win you over. Thats not gonna happen for a long time....
I hear there is a Bachelorette this summer... there was an interview on EW.com with one of the producers. But he didn't say who. I'm still voting for Hillary! Or maybe Bevin (although she says she's dating).
Hey Lincee....you don't know me, but I feel like we are buds anyway!! You totally crack me up and should get paid for such wonderful entertainment!! The only thing I think you missed about lastnight was to make fun of whoever picked out the ties worn by our HCH and HTC Brad.... what the heck was CH thinking with that purple swirly thing around his neck?! :)
Can't wait to read your next post.... have a blast in NYC! My hubby and I got engaged there two years ago on the ice at the Rockefeller Center, so NYC has a special place in my heart!! :)
Your friend in Dallas, Amber
Lincee,
The one thing I told my friend is...the reason it wouldn't work, don't get me wrong, I feel sorry for both girls, but he's a true Texas guy. And as always, a Texas guy needs a Texas girl.......no matter how you swing it. I have committment issues, so I recognize Brad's right away. When the right girl comes along, he'll feel the butterflies. Have a fabulous Thanksgiving!!!
Lincee,
Thank you for yet another season. I have to say, when I talk to my friends about the bachelor, we always use your names, Jenni Couric, Hotter Than Crap Brad, etc. You're terrific to read.
About last night, I have to say, I was sitting there thinking that he has real issues about people hating him. I believe that he was genuinely a nice guy, just didn't feel it, didn't want anyone to hate him so he acted really badly and made everyone hate him. Poor guy.
I guess the good news is that you can give him that purple crush pride foam finger when he comes to your hometown!
See you next year!
Lincee, I only watched the last two episodes of the bachelor this season and was told about your blog...your recaps are witty and riiight on! thanks for all you do :)
as for brad...i agree that he is a people pleaser. he doesn't want to come out looking like the bad guy, so he sends mixed feelings. this is just as bad. he should just be an asshole. then at least dd wouldn't be confused.
For the love of God, Brad Womack, let DDHanna go in peace!!! If you truly miss someone you long to be with them. If your heart is broken then you do something to make it unbroken. Just shut your mouth and quit leading that poor girl on. You are giving her false hope. Leave with some dignity and just tell her you didn't love her quit telling things that someone with feelings would tell her.
Brad Womack is a classless jerk.
SO super awkward! The whole thing! I was dying! They booed him! I mean, this guy goes from the sexiest bachelor and the most popular and loved, to people BOOing him while walking on the stage! Many women with lots of angry faces and eye rolls!! Oh the stark contrast!!
I think the reason everyone is so upset (me included) is because it was our fairytale. We want to believe in true love – as sappy as that sounds and as ridiculous as it is finding it on national TV. Women really want to believe that there is that perfect person out there and that there ARE happy endings... but as we all know from last night’s episode, there aren't always happy endings. I don't see sad or tragic ending movies for a reason. If I would've known this ended like this - with all things awkward and the whole color me rejected theme, I would've tuned out months ago.
Lincee - you are hilarious. It has been a JOY to read your blogs on Tuesdays! Thanks for the entertainment. Have fun in NYC! What a fun city! Go ice-skating at Rockefeller Center for me!
Lincee,
Thank you for keeping it real and putting a voice to all our thoughts. Your recaps have been a highlight of my weeks!
HTC Brad - dissapointing? YES! Entertaining, well, yes. Was it worth it? To quote you - "eh". I'll be back in the spring for your witty banter. Enjoy your holidays!
Your fan,
Jenn
I found it ironic, that after all the "strong feelings we were missing something talk"...When Brad the Cad sat down with Jenni he wanted to put his arm around her.
The producer said they couldn't keep their hands off each other during filming...and it looks like Brad was going all touchy feely again and caught himself and then did not know what to do.
No wonder DD is confused - she got the break up without the fight!!
I love your comments as usual! However, I don't think he wants Barbie or Cinderella...more like a cross between playboy's playmate of the month, career barbie and betty crocker with a greek family!
Which would be fair - if we ladies could get a similiar hybrid. I am married to a wonderful guy, but he is not perfect and to be honest, the imperfections are part of what makes him so special.
I think Brad has a very unrealistic view of love and what a committed relationship are all about. (I am a life coach - so I do have some qualifications to say so!)
Brad told Jenni "When I was with you, I was thinking about Deanna and when I was with Deanna, I was thinking about you" ..I think this was the most revealing and maybe only truthful think Brad said.
He kept misleading these ladies until the end. He told Deanna he would miss her?! He told her he thought about her everyday?! While I was dating, break ups were just that. It was over completely and I didn't think about that person much again. If I thought someone was wrong for me, then I stuck by my decision and never said anything the least bit misleading to the other person again. He could have said..I was not in love with either of you and did not think spending more time with you would make me in love with you. I was caught up in the excitement of the show and said things I shouldn't have said. Instead...he kept saying the misleading things. He needs the ABC psychotherapist.
Sigh....
I don't think the real issue is the fairy tale ending being missing...
I think people feel betrayed by the lack of integrity and inconsistency. It feels personal when you witness it on tv! Which is really ironic - cause the whole thing is for ratings!
Lincee,
You are the bomb! I have enjoyed reading all your recaps and have laughed out loud on several occasions! Unfortunately Brad is your typical hot, popular, smooth talkin' love 'em and leave 'em dude that we have all either dated or known. Maybe that is why this whole bachelor ending has hit a nerve in so many...YIKES!
THANKS LINCEE!
So most of the comments on this blog were rosey and upbeat for Brad until the final rose. He was being defended left and right when Bettina's family went a-wall. Brad was being characterized by words like "sweet," "sensative," and "adorable."
And then came a decision that angered most women in the 20-35 demographic of viewers...he didn't make your fairy tale come true.
Sure, we all love a Cinderella story and in essence, that's what The Bachelor TV show is.
But cut the dude some slack! Can you imagine having ever action/word under a microscope? I know he signed up for being on a reality show, but I don't think that means America can bash them repeatedly.
I think people are hiding behind their keyboads and screen names, saying things they would never acutally say to someone's face. Honestly...you run in to Brad someday in Ausitn Texas...are you really going to call him a Jerk?
I don't know the guy, but there's still a modicum of decency that needs to be shown here. So, as my sweetpea of a grandma would say, if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all!
re: anonymouse 9:44AM
I agree he wants perfection. I love my husband so deeply yet he is not perfect. Fallling in love happened easily but marriage is work and compromise! I feel sorry for him if he only wants a fairy tale. Life isn't a fairy tale for most of us.
I think I would call him a "jerk" or something worse if I saw him!
Lincee
Tell your buddy Chris Harrison that I totally LOVED him last night in the AFR show...He got in every sarcastic snarky comment every chance he could...WOOHOO go Chris. He made the show totally worth watching, but I was wondering that since Chris already KNEW the outcome, was it hard for him to keep his obvious contempt for Brad in check during the taping of the WTA special???
Lincee! Loved it, loved it all! Have fun in NYC. Catch you on the flip side and I'm hoping for hand&foot in Dec! Let's make it happen! Happy turkey day! tam
Thank you for another wonderful season! My Tuesdays will not be the same! I look forward to reading your other blog in the down time.
As for Brad, all I could think last night is how much sense DD was making in her comments and how illogical Brad's were. I would have been saying the same thing that she did. If you feel all these great things about someone-- enough to fly her dad out there-- then it's REALLY not fair to give it a chance to see if those "butterflies" develop. But at the same time, maybe him being a jerk will help her get over him more quickly. I was a Jenni fan through the whole show, but my heart just went out to DD last night.
On another note, one important lesson from last night that I will take throughout my life is to avoid minidresses when the schedule involves sitting on a couch on national TV.
Happy Thanksgiving to all!
After watching last night I was pissed off even more than I was the night before! Im pretty sure "Brad Womack" is just an alias for my ex!! Doesnt know what the hell he wants and cant give you an honest answer about why he feels the way he feels!! GUYS JUST NEED TO GROW THE "F" UP!!!! Its called LIFE!!! You have to deal with it eventually!!! I totally lost ALL respect for Brad last night!! And I thought both Jenni AND Deanna handled themselves no differently than I would have handled myself in that situation!! and I certainly dont think DD handled things poorly!! I've been there, done that, when you're that mad AND sad over something, you just have to get it all out or you will go crazy!!
our favorite host Chris did an awesome job, he kept asking the tough questions and i LOVED it how he kept asking the girls, "Do you buy that?" Ha, oh how i laughed. Poor Brad. I feel bad for the guy. I don't think anyone would be so upset if he could just put his feelings into words. I think what he meant to say is "When I was with these girls, I would get wrapped up in the moment, in the experience. But when it came down to it and when I think about the rest of my life, the true love I needed to propose or even continue dating just wasnt there. And if i have the same feelings for 2 girls, realistically....it's not right. If one of the two were meant for me, I'd be head over heels for that one and only that one."
Brad didn't fall in love but I believe he desperately wanted to...it just didn't happen. Poor guy. At least he has his hotter than crapness to fall back on and almost every woman in Texas will be headed to Austin to try and save him and show him that they, in fact, can give him butterflies.
Until next time....Lincee, it was a pleasure as always. Happy Thanksgiving everyone!
-Mary
For the record, I am an early 30s, single, straight male: Let me say Lincee, great blog. You have a fantastic blend of wit and sarcasm, I love it. (Here goes, I'm coming out of 'The Bachelor' closet). Had you asked me two months ago, if I would 1. Be watching the latest season of The Bachelor 2. Be reading a Bachelor blog with who knows how many female Bachelor fanatics (too harsh?) faithful parishoners? or 3. Be posting a comment to a Bachelor blog, the answer to all of the above would emphatically be NO. However I now realize what I've been missing.....its too good. The show is just too ripe for the picking. In short, its a gold mine of absurdity. But I'm confused, still hanging on the balance of Reality-TV (that IS an oxymoron). I'm sold though. What happens to me next? Do I host The Bachelor viewing parties at my house with half a dozen girlfriends??? Lord, please don't let my friends find out about this. Question - last night I caught footage at the beggining of the show where they were replaying clips of the final rose cereomony, but Brad and DD were in the reverse position. He was standing on the right, and she was standing on the left and they were holding hands. This was clearly inadvertant on the show's part since that was not consistent with how they were standing in the "actual" cermonony. Slight glitch, or is there more to that? If you Tevoed the show, go check it out. Its brief, but its there. Also, is there any way you can get me the location of the Salvation Army where Brad gets his ties?
Thanks.
Happy Thanksgiving from Texas.
The twenty five beautiful women, and the bachelor were thrown into a whirl of emotions. When you take those emotions in, it's like eating a meal; it all gets mixed up inside. Who in the world with sanity could think one could share all of themselves in such a short time and not leave most everyone including the viewer with nothing
but confusion and hurt. I don't know Brad's heart, but I believe that Jennie and
Deanna were very sincere, but they
are probably luckier than they know. Life is not a whirlwind, life
in the fast lane can be destructive
and a business that promotes that
lifestyle to take the sting off things, give you a little lift, or
make things go away, leading some
to alcoholism, would not be a lifestyle that I could picture either Deanna or Jennie in. Somewhere down the road a conscious
would bother them. For me, the only two people in the show who were mature enough to see what was ahead were Bettina's father and the one who initially said "that is just not my lifestyle.' AS for
Brad, I think he is a guy caught up
in the swirling stream of life, now with more emotions than ever, that
only his creator can resolve. He will never forget intimate things
shared with those women. They become a part of you. I hope He
does make it. I'm not angry at him or disappointed in him. I just think he too was a victim filled
with confusion and disappointments.
I wish Jennie, Deanna, and Brad the
best.
ABC should stop broadcasting the bachelor and just have you blog about it live :D
For me, Brad has been the first Bachelor in AWHILE that was not a total douchebag. He is "hotter than crap" and probably gets away with this all the time! The guy is just probably not ready to settle down and being in the bar business surely does not help. Check out his bars' myspace page. Not the quiet little pub atmosphere. I would have been alot happier if he had just told them both the truth and then just ruined the ending but I'm sure ABC was not going to let him do that. My thing is why the hell do these guys HAVE to buy a ring? Why can't they just say "I'm not ready for married but would like to continue this to see where it goes?" And then give her his letter jacket instead.
He is obviously very misguided. You don't tell a girl that professes her love to you, two months after the fact, that you still care about her and miss her more than she will ever know. It will not make her feel better! It will only make her feel worse! He has two sister's-in law, they couldn't give hi a little heads-up so he would look like less of a jerk?
Hey Lincee. Great thought wrap up on a very unenlightning evening. Can we say psychotherapy anyone? I think that overall the evening was a ton of awkwardness and continued confusion for the ladies. I would say Jenni, who honestly is very nice girl, although she really bugged me talking baby talk all the time with a little too exhuberant laugh at times. I believe she was genuine, but there was always a little bit of an element that she was trying to make the next cuts through out the show, just like she would when she practices and trys out for a dance. I believe she would have taken the chance on him, just don't think it would have worked in the end. She was very sweet and a relationship is around the corner for her, no doubt.
As far as DD, I think poor girl!!! I mean he told her everything he could and in every way that he was into her, only to say that in the end, it wasn't 100% so it was nothing. I personally thought OHCH, was awesome to seriously punch out the hard stuff to him, and even touch on the 100% issue as a cop out. Great job Chris! What I would say to this 100% thing which is clearly the issue for him, (even his own mother intimated that it was black and white for Brad in his life, no grey areas) is this.
Brad is much like my own man in the whole need to be full of integrity and feel everything 100% a 100% of time. What he has learned, after 8 and a half years of marriage is that you take the chance on what you know at the time, the initial connection,(which I felt for 2 years before he did fully) and the rest is worked out in the living part of love. BUTTERFLYS!!!!! please...... we are not in high school here or watching a lifetime made for TV movie. Attraction is one thing, but love is another. Love is a commitment at its heart. My husband and I went through a 8 month separation after only two years of being married, and let me tell you, staying was love, 1 corinthians 13 style. Walking through marriage is a ton of work and love is the glue that holds you together. Love is watching your mate stand by your side and commit to care and extend and sacrifice themselves for the other. Butterflys are the result of the walking out of those moments, truely. When you see those concepts lived out the butterflys come. Like when my husband puts off doing something he really wanted to do, so that I could have a break from the kids. Or its me saying I love him to the core of who he is so, I will stay no matter how hard it was and as much as I wanted to just walk away. (He gets butterflys when he thinks on that) Romance is also a different catagory as well which let me say is maybe, and I beleive I am stretching it out here about 7-10% of marriage. Even the getting down to it part, is not what you see on the movies, where people are tearing their clothes off in passion, but moreover a total enrapture of sweetness of the moment. We all know 'romance' is about 95% of dating, but reality is not grounded in any of that. It is fleeting at best, and once we are married it flees at record rates, especially after kids. I love my husband in many different ways, but the whole romantic butterfly theory is not the base for any of it, more like the icing on the cake.
So what I would say to Brad is there needs to be a measure of reality is his ideal. Its not about perfection or finding it. He kept saying he was not perfect, and had no formula for love, well the reality was he does, or he wouldn't have rejected even the process of trying to figure it out. There are gray areas, and they are gray for a reason. They need to be explored, tested, stretched and tried before making conclusions. And love is NOT a feeling, it is a commitment. feelings are what leads us there initially, but the rest is risk, and risk is frightening. However, what I can say is, that its worth the risk. It doesn't mean that the first moment its hard, or doesn't feel or go your way, that its all been bunk and it time to quit. More likely a time to dig in and find out more about yourself in giving it to another.
ANYWAY, if you want to check me out, you can read my blog that I post on here and there. www.nuttynotesfromanothermom.blogspot.com
Love ya Lincee, and as always you rock. There will be another Bach to laugh and muse over, and we will look forward to your witty posts.
I think he's back with his ex-girlfriend and he knew she would be listening carefully to his every word on the show. Men only leave beautiful women when they have someone else to go to...
Well said, Lincee. You framed all that out quite nicely. As a Bachelor fan through an through, I can't wait until next season! Until then, it's ihategreenbeans for this true Lincee fan.
Lincee,
CONGRATULATIONS on hitting the one million mark! You rock!
Everyone should read this:
http://www.ew.com/ew/article/0,,20161757,00.html
VERY insightful.
Lincee,
Happy Thanksgiving! Enjoy New York and meeting SG#1. Post a picture for us of you two!
I must admit...I totally slacked on watching this season...I would read your recaps of course, but didn't watch the show after the first couple episodes...
Brad bugged me, and being a Texas girl he reminded me too much of an old high school boyfriend...aka jerk. You hit the nail on the head when you said he was one of those guys who always had to have approval and be liked...accurate observation I do believe.
I tuned in for the "After the Non-Rose" show when I learned he sent them both packing...and what a show. Your recap of it was great as usual!
I loved how ABC had to bring out their only 2 success stories to have something "good" to talk about...I just kept thinking that DD and Mary must be sisters. They looked like twinsies to me.
I heart Trista & Ryan 4 ever.
Anyway...when I'm enjoying green bean casserole tomorrow I'll think of you! :) ha!
Happy Turkey Day to all, and side notes: Angela-what a crazy game in Lubbock last week :(, and #1 Jayhawk Fan-it's great to see Kansas doing so well. Glad someone from the Big XII can represent! Go Jayhawks!
Hook 'em!
BFF Jenn
Hey, Lincee - just stumbled across your site recently - love it!
I live in Austin, though I don't go to those Sixth Street bars he owns anymore bec, quite frankly, I'm 35 and over that crowd. I have met him a few times, though, before the show started.
I can shed some light, maybe, as a single woman living in Austin - one of the things that makes this city so awesome is the outrageous number of single-and-beautiful people here. Ranks high in places for singles to live, consistently. The town is also filled and brimming over with commitment-phobes. This great lifestyle for singles and so many gorgeous people to choose from breeds that kind of thing. On any given week, there are no shortage of incredibly cute, smart, successful, witty, charismatic and *with-it* bachelors to spend my time with. Some of them have become my best friends - and are still single in their 30s. Why??? Because they date for years. Because there's always the Bigger Better Deal. Brad's a Texan and, more importantly, an Austinite now. If it ain't all there for him, he's got no reason to waste his time. He can just come on home to the Single-and-Lovin-It Capitol of the World.
/Can you hear my frustration?
Anyway, nice work blogging the show - see you next season!
Your new fan.
He's a guy. He wants to be single. It's that simple. This was a powerplay on his part. It's a guy thing, sorry ladies. Why choose one? He just secured a pu**y parade through his bar. Well played, sir, well played.
What he should have done is given each of the 25 one rose petal from the "Final Rose", and said "I love you all, but none of you bring me butterflies. I'd like to have sex with all of you." That would have been the honest thing to do.
As a 42 yr old woman, I totally understand where Brad is coming from. I believe that he is personally heartbroken and I believe as a man he feels terrible for hurting anyone, including the audience.
This is my take: He has so much fun with and feels such sexual chemistry with Jennie but does not see her as his wife; aka the 75% girl. He sees DeAnna as his wife and despite sexual feelings they are not as strong as the ones he has for Jennie; aka the 95% girl.
I think he wanted to want DeAnna. She is everything he imagined for himself when he thought about a wife. Maybe if he just met DeAnna and only her so he was not comparing simultanous feelings between 2 woman, they would have had the happy ever after. But, that is not what happened. Instead, he met the perfect wife and the perfect girlfriend. This situation is confusing.
Ask yourself, if you found your on paper husband and your dream fun goodtime guy wouldn't you be confused? You like both and have different feelings for both. You also realize that if you can't put the goodtime guy out of your mind when you are with the on paper husband, then there is something off.
I believe that Brad really wanted to do the right thing. I even am guessing that up until he saw Jennie to say good-bye, he thought he was going to choose DeAnna but those pesky sexual feeling were too strong for him to feel picking DeAnna would be honest. He wanted to take the high road and do the right thing by freeing DeAnna to find a man who would think of her 100% which is what she deserves. He also deserves to be with someone he can be 100%.
As far as him still thinking about DeAnna, I also get that -- endings are never easy especially when you still care. It has only been 2 months since he let the really close but just not right one go and that hurts particularly since he really wanted her to be the one for him.
-- MK
Great season Lincee! Two questions...
1. Did you notice Chad's "Barbie" wife sitting next to him in the audience??
2. What was up with Brad's rude nudge to DD when Chris asked the first question, once they were both out there? Did you see that??
Thanks for the laughs and Happy Thanksgiving!
MK,
You hit the nail on the head....as much as I want to Brad bash because I have been DD, I think you got it right. Keep in mind that if "you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got". That helped me get out of DD mode and find the guy that deserved me and that I deserved....You, as well as our Lincee, are brilliant!
While in the Big Apple,try Peter
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We think Texas can do a steak; this
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no broadway.
Lincee you should write blogs for Real Housewives of Orange County - now THAT is some crazy stuff. I would LOVE to hear your take on that show....ooof. GOBBLE TIL YOU WOBBLE! Have a great time in NYC!
MK
I agree with you completely! I've had the same thing happen to me and I really felt for DeAnna last night. I believe everything happens for a reason. Not long after I had my heart completely broken I met an amazing guy who I know completes me and I will spend the rest of my life with and I can't see myself with anyone else. Is it butterflies 100% of the time? No, but love is about so much more than that.
Happy Thanksgiving and thanks so much for your Bachelor Blog! Enough about Brad the Cad already--watching the After the Rose show just confirmed his MANY issues...I plan on boycotting the NEXT Bachelor show as they prove a waste of time! But, I am willing to watch The Bachelorette! I hope it is either Jenni or Hillary--DD is too BLAND!
Thanks for another wonderful season of bachelor recaps - you have a true gift.
Can't wait for next season - but in the mean time I will be getting my Lincee fix from ihategreenbeans!
I love some of the insights on this board ALMOST as much as L's blog!
One thing that struck me was a comment from the Bachelor producer in the entertainment weekly article someone posted. He said Brad's decision was striking a chord because having a guy split just when things are feeling intimate and good is most women's worst nightmare.
Amen.
I'm a long-time single woman who's been dating a nice new man for a few months now. We had just spent a lovely weekend together and I woke up Monday AM feeling good. Decided to watch "The B" on Monday night and watching the dumbstruck DD, found myself remembering, "Oh yeah. Right... Right... This is how it goes. This is what they do. Oh no. Crap, what have I done?"
I had to take a day to talk myself back down.
Watching the 90% female audience react to Brad on the ATFR show, in addition to the anger, I think there was a fair amount of PTSD.
The B is a nightmare horror train wreck of a reality program, but I also think it does a service in exposing the dark underbelly of dating and romance. Dare I call it a sociological phenom? Nah, probably not...
Does the world seem off balance to anyone else? I got totally sucked into the drama that was last night's show, and they got me thinking this was the biggest catastrophe of the month.
And then I got a grip.
Did anyone notice that blonde lady the camera kept cutting to? She was caught several times making ghastly faces, it was incredible.
Lincee, thanks for a great season! Maybe the spring season will be like a Survivor version of the Bachelor. The most simple dates(perhaps Sheena's idea of sitting on a towel in a parking lot?), no gowns, no jewelry, and the women all live in a hut or tents. It could all take place in Africa. At least there would be animals to look at.
Hooray for Lincee!!
And hooray for MK (11:15 am) too. You hit it right on, I think.
Last night as my fiance and I were watching the ATFR episode, I said something about "Oh, we call Jenni 'Jenni Couric.'" Erik was like "We, who?" And I was like "Oh, you know, me and the 999,999 other people who read Lincee's Bachelor blog." Ha.
See y'all next season.
http://www.ew.com/ew/article/0,,20161757,00.html
check this out... an interview with the elusive bachelor producer... not only does he drop MULTIPLE f-bombs, but he also reveals the GREATEST news ever... there will be a BACHELORETTE next summer after the new bachelor season in the spring! yessss! as much as i love the bachelor, the bachelorette is really my favorite!!!
Lincee -
First, thank you so much for making the day after more fun than the night before!
I feel sorry for all three of the characters in this opera. That may be a controversial attitude on the board here, but I truly believe Brad meant well, got caught up in the whole experience, and however poorly he did it, concluded that he needed to extricate himself from both relationships. As a mature woman I'd like to think I would not have handled any break-up as badly as he did, but let's face it, we've all known someone in our lives who does something for the right reasons but it turns wrong and fixing it makes everyone unhappy.
It disturbed me to know that he was seemingly so sure of things that he requested Deanna's father be there, but it of course leaves more questions than answers. And then there is the reality that if he DID intend to go through with it, the person who REALLY got played in all this was Jenni! Brad knew, ABC knew, and even Deanna said she sensed she was the one, whereas little Jenni becomes the sacrificial lamb put up on the altar for slaughter -- the only one who DIDN'T know, but who went into it with all her hopes, all her dreams, and all her expectations in high gear. I don't know about you Lincee, but THAT would be my definition of cruel, ESPECIALLY after she finds out, finally, at the same time we schlemiels get the news, that he never intended to choose her, since he wanted Deanna's father there!
One thing, though: last night we saw REAL reality on a show -- there was no clever editing or teasing with "be right back" -- at times Chris looked like he didn't know whether to crap or wind his watch -- were I considering being a contestant, I'd sure want to keep that hour in mind when thinking about going all the way!
All right, I've been pondering Brad's decision more, and I've come to the conclusion that maybe he just got caught up on the excitement of the show, was urged by the producers to be affectionate (for lack of a better term) with the women, and then in the end he suddenly realized his feelings were too shallow. I forgive him for not choosing either woman and for not continuing a sham "let's see where this journey takes us" romance that would end in a month.
What I *don't* think is cool is the way he kept telling them how much he cares about them, misses them, etc. He also tried to hug and kiss them last night, to put his hand on their knee, etc. This kind of behavior is very misleading and is going to make the women hurt even more. If he no longer wants to be involved with them, then the gentlemanly thing to do is to be more reserved and stop sending mixed messages.
"I didn't fall in love with you, and I'm sticking with my decision to dump you, but I think of you every day, my heart is broken, and I miss you more than you'll ever know?" Uh, WTF? Leave the women a little dignity, Brad; comments like that mess with their heads.
Another why did he do it article on E!
http://www.eonline.com/gossip/kristin/detail/index.jsp?uuid=0260cf60-bb96-4e6a-9a58-0401d8e9833d&sid=rss_kristin&utm_source=eonline&utm_medium=rssfeeds&utm_campaign=rss_kristin
is it just me, or does it just seem flat rude that ABC puts these gals up on stage, makes them cry, and does not even provide them with a lousy box of kleenex? By the time they finished JC's grandma montage I was yelling at the tv - "Chris Harrison - give the girl your hanky - for the love of God!"
LD
I don't really feel sorry for DD. Get a grip girl, you dated him for like 5 minutes while he was dating other women. And he tried last night to tell you every way but cruelly "I'm just not that into you".
Why did he have the women say they loved him? Why did he "buy" the ring (which you know he didn't and was a product placement deal)? Why did he seem to like them both so much? CONTRACTUAL OBLIGATIONS!! It's all part of the show. Hello!
All the viewing women who are so upset and wanted a proposal know these relationships don't work out, they just don't want to see it on their tv. These reality participants are to play the part so we can all pretend that there is a better, more romantic life out there that we don't have. Ridiculous. Who cares anyway? No one made these women apply to be on a reality show.
what's the stephen king reference to this season? i think i missed something...
You’re brilliant! It’s true.
As for the Bradster…he broke my heart, too! How can man say, “You’re perfect. I’ll miss you more than you know.” Then cry. Cry, real tears and be depressed, and want affectionate interaction (Brad kept touching the girls, wanting to be with them again- ugh) and then in a bi-polar emotional jerk claim, “You are not the one for me. But I’ll be thinking about you every day. –sob-“
Yes, I was jilted by a crying man…a man who claimed that I was wonderful, and perfect, and everything that he couldn’t bring himself to have in his empty life (tears, his and mine)…and he still calls and still emails and says wimpy things like “How are you? What are you doing?” Then runs back to hide in his shell.
Guys afraid of commitment are the worst. Because they do love you and want you, but they won’t allow themselves the pleasure a relationship. It’s all angst.
I believe Jenni will get over Brad rather quickly if not already after all she's dancing in front a millions of people and having the time of her life. DeAnna I believe would have been a good chose for Brad if he would have given her a chance. In all actuallity, I believe Brad has not come out and lives in a closet, something about my gaydar that went off several times thoughout the show. Maybe someday the truth will come out. DeAnna, you will be a good catch for someone and if Brad is straight, well, just say eat you heart out Brad, look how you messed up!
The Stephen King reference is to a comment I made after we met Bettina's elitist father. Her dad is a dead ringer for Stephen King. Lincee clearly agreed and referred to the father as Stephen King thereafter.
ah. thanks 1:37. i do remember that now :)
Bettina's "elitist father" looks like a genius now! I think that's why the producers left all those disparaging remarks about Brad in that episode.
I would have to agree with reason #5. I think he did the show for publicity and if he fell it love it would have been a bonus.
Kristin, unfortunately Bettina's father's objections were that Brad wasn't college educated. That has nothing to do with Brad's flaky and childish behavior at the end. College educated guys are just as capable of being bounders and cads as anyone else -- and sometimes college grads are too cocky for their own damn good!
I've been in the situation before where I had feelings for 2 guys. One being my then current boyfriend, and then a new guy in my life, it was VERY confusing. I related to Brad when he said that it just puzzles him (freaks him out) that he could have feelings for 2 people. Having feeling for 2 people is NOT fun, especially when both of them is loving you, wanting to marry you and their hearts will be broken. I was there too when I'd be with guy A, thinking of guy B, and vice versa, it's almost like a guilt trip mechanism when you are with guy A, you automatically think "oh shit, i am so horrible, guy B is gonna punch me"... needless to say, that point in my life is done now, I am with either guys, realizing either are actually good for me and I am supremely happy with my current bf who is everything I want - a combination of the past 2 if you will. There was a reason I couldnt choose, there WAS a reason I liked one for this part, and I liked the other for another part, but there's also a reason why I couldnt choose and shouldnt be with either - because they might represent something I like as a whole, one's smart and funny, the other's caring and attentive, but what I really want is all of them.
Anyhow, I think the way Brad "sweet-talked" the girls to the end was misleading, confusing and borderline brutal, but I think that's how the show is produced, he couldnt just end it 5 episodes in and say that he didnt find the one, no butterflies, let's call off the search. He HAD to continue narrowing down the girls and tell the girls that he likes them, if he was honest and told them "I like you, I think you are hot, but I dont think you are it..." the show would have sued him. So, I think he was honest with the "I just dont feel the butterflies, aint 100% sure, cant look you in the eye and say I am 100% in love, you deserve more" that was honest and sincere, but maybe in real life, he could have nixed the leading on, the final dates, the meeting of parents which usually give girls hope that there is a future, but I think it's part of the show and he has to do it, so... I think under this circumstance, under the show contract, he done what he could, and he DID take the high road to ditch both because he knows he cant LIKE 2 girls and not love either, then why bother. I am sure he has choices galore, and he'd rather find ONE that he's just so crazy and in love with, than to hang onto two mediocres that MAY turn into love. He's 34 and dont got much time to lose.
DD or Jenni, if you guys are reading, I think it's brave and courageous of you to tell the guy you love that you love them and we can ALL feel your pain on TV when your heart is broken. That was brutal, this show is addictive and great, but your feelings were at our expense, but keep looking forward, you deserve someone who does LOOK you in the eye and say that you are the one 100% and that guy will come, it's just not Brad, but you tried!
And Brad... as much as the general public hate you and think you are an ass for walking around. I applaude you and think you DID do the rightest thing you could. You just simply didnt find love, how could you in this type of show, 25 gorgeous women fighting over you in your face, total distraction, you cant even focus on one person and really get to know them, it's all under spotlight, film crew and dialogue you have to be careful about, how can you truly fall in love, it's entertaining for us, but it's not real at all, that's not how love in real life really happen... so dont feel bad that you didnt fall in love with these 25 gorgeous women, and yes it is confusing as heck to like 2 chicks, they are hot, they are funny, they are smart, of course you would, but wait for the real thing, it will be so real, swept you off your feet and you'd be in love, and you will know 100%.
the interview by the producer really bothered me!!
Lincee-
We're buds. I'll tell you who I am the next time I see you. Until then, I am a single, straight, Christian male, in my early 30's.
I didn't watch much of TB this year, but I caught the final 15 minutes last night. Tension!! And of course I read your blog and comments today.
Some friends and family drop the "commitment issue" bomb on me from time to time. I laughed at the girl who said she'd hit her son w/ a cast iron skillet if her son behaved the way Brad did...that thought has probably crossed my mom's mind a time or two. I can see some truth in the assessment, but I am willing and ready to make the commitment to the right woman.
Based on my limited knowledge of the sitch, Brad was extremely misleading. BUT ISN'T THAT THE NATURE OF THE SHOW? If he did not share emotions with multiple girls would people still watch? I'm not saying it is fair or right, but each of the girls had to expect something like this when they signed up.
Honestly, why would a girl accept a man's marriage proposal when he has been very romantically involved with other woman during their entire dating process?!? I just don't get it.
It makes sense that Brad's heart is divided, that he is not sure. This ending was bound to happen sooner or later on the show.
I agree with those who say that love is a choice. I believe in that completely.
But please give some advice- when do you choose to love someone? When it feels right? Or when it is the right kind of person? Or both? I am friends with more than a few amazing women who have the qualities I long for in a mate...yet I am not "feeling the butterflies." Are my expectations for my feelings set too high? Do I just buck up and "choose" to love one of them?
I believe that when it is the right woman it will obvious. Not easy. But very obvious. I will see the good and the bad and love her all the more. When there is something missing early on in a relationship I tend to get out then because I don't want to inflict deeper hurt by waiting a few months. Is that bad?
Let me reiterate that I do not condone the way Brad acted. His words and actions were misleading to these women.
-Texas
made a turkey sandwich... LOL!!!!
Lincee, I never disagree with you. And this season is no exception. I have met so many "Brads" it is really sad for womankind. Unlike many fans, I do believe you can find love in 6 weeks and I believe you can feel it and know that it's new love and needs time to grow. I think Brad being REAL and honest -as he kept saying he was trying to be (or whatever *big eyeroll*) - would have been him NOT buying a ring, him NOT having ABC fly out DD's dad, and him NOT telling either girl how great they are, how much he cares, blah blah BLAH!
I wasn't a Jenni fan at all this season but realized that she deserves better and poor (and young) DD...I hope he hasn't ruined things for her, she's young and has so many more options than stupid Brad. I think the funny thing will be when Chad leaves his wife for Sheena! just kidding Mrs. Chad!! But seriously he liked her WAY TOO MUCH!!
Lincee,
Why were you eating a turkey sandwich two days before Thanksgiving?
Brad is a complete jerk and really looked bad last night. I know I shouldn't care but I invested a lot of time in that stupid show. The guy could not even form a sentence as to why he decided not to pick anyone. I bet the jerk will be seen with a movie star within the next month or so. Mark my words: This guy found a hot movie chick. But I still hope his bars fail.
I was intrigued by DD's comment last night that Brad had told her the day of the final rose ceremony would be a "good day." Combine that with him having the producers bring her father out to California, it seems like he was planning to propose to her, so I wonder when he changed his mind. Before the rose ceremony or as he was standing there beginning his little speech to DD?
I usually enjoy reading through fun and witty comments posted to this blog. I'm sorry to be a rag, but I gotta say that I blow right past the long 12-paragraph posts. You know the ones, they are the ones that analyze why Brad did what he did, the ones that have it all figured out, the ones who explain to all of us idiots what love is. Then they go on to tell us THEIR true love story. No one cares.
The best are the gilted ones. I don't mean the gilted bachelorettes...I'm talking about the gilted random bloggers!! LOL! This may not be MY site, but I'm pretty sure it is not a forum for your sob story. Get on a Dr. Phil blog.
Can't we go back to the true core of this blog? Witty banter and attention to the funny details about a "REALITY" show called "The Bachelor"?? It's a show for entertainment...its purpose is not to bring 2 people together, its purpose is to get viewers to watch it and talk about it - THE SHOW, not THEMSELVES.
If you can't say anything witty or observant, just don't say anthing at all! OK? Anyone second that motion? For the record, this is only 4 paragraphs. :)
I second that Anon 4:20! Get a grip people!
I just watched the show... and I have to say that my heart just goes out to DD. I do think that Brad was trying to take the high road. He thought he was truly being good by letting her go. But man... it hurt. Hell, I cried. It took me right back to being 19 and having my HS sweetheart tell me, in bed, that while he loved me... he just wasn't there. He took back his proposal and said he thought I was the greatest girl ever and I would make a wonderful wife, but at that time it just wasn't going to work. Watching DD cry... I felt for her. And I think Brad truly broke her heart and it will take her a LONG time to get over the pain and humiliation he caused her. I don't think Brad is the worst guy ever... most men do some version of this at some point. But I just feel so much for DD. Chin up girl... better things are to come. Brad... think twice before you break someone else's heart. Your last words to her were flat out CRUEL. Not cool.
Please let's be tolerant of those who feel compelled to share their own stories. For many who follow the show the last 6+ weeks have ended in a sad and surprising way. I know that when Deanna commented that she was tired of being the last woman a guy dates before he marries someone else, it really hit home for me. Many people identify strongly with the participants in this program, and need an outlet for their reactions.
Please, on this day before Thanksgiving, let's all just be kind to one another, hmm?
Best to Lincee and to all.
We need to change his name here from Hotter Than Crap Brad to Full of Crap Brad. . .
MK:
You win the award for best comment board comment in the history of season 11. You nailed it.
Thanks again and always, Lincee! have a great time in the City and please go sopping at H&M for me. Damn I wish they had those in the south!
LINCEE, HAVE YOU HEARD?? THE GRINCH IS OPENING BACK UP ON BROADWAY, SO THERE'S AT LEAST ONE SHOW YOU CAN GO TO!! YEA!!
Whoever commented on the lack of tissues, I am right there with ya! They KNOW these girls are going to cry their eyes out. GIVE THEM A TISSUE ALREADY!!! ABC intern dropped the ball on that one.
Sorry love - I gotta agree with 4:20(light 'em up!). People are taking this so seriously, and I think (hope) the point trying to be made above was this blog has always been fun and light-hearted. It's not about not being kind. The sob stories are making me want to slit my wrists, so 4:20's not alone. These downers and psycho babble doesn't seem to be the intent of this blog...just sayin'.
If some people need an outlet talking to strangers because they were let down by a reality tv show, then they are waaaaaaay too involved with the lives of watching perfect strangers. There are other chat rooms for that type of banter. Sorry!
Not all of broadway is Black!!!!! Mary Poppins is great, bringing back memories of childhood...I think Legally Blonde is still on too. GREAT musical. You would LOVE it. Have fun nonetheless. It's NY afterall.
and yes, I heart Trista and Ryan too. He is so dang hot. oh my.
Wasn't there an episode of Friends where Chandler simply was unable to stop saying "Okay, so I'll call you!" to a woman he dated, even though he never wanted to see her again and she even knew that he didn't want to see her again?
Brad was just like that -- he couldn't stop saying things like "I have such strong feelings for you" and "I couldn't stop thinking of you" and "I'll miss you more than you'll ever know" to DD. Not that I think he was lying...he just couldn't control the incredibly stupid urge to say those things to her.
Jenni is a sweet girl who came across really well last night, but I can't resist: Anyone else think her little journal gift pushed Brad over the edge in his decision making? I mean, some of us have read her Phoenix Suns audition journal. Yikes.
Seriously, though, you could see it on Brad's face during his final dates that he wasn't feeling EITHER of them. He looked pained when they each expressed their love. And even when he sat there at dinner telling DD how much she fit his vision of a wife, it sounded as if every single thing he was saying was leading up to a big "but." But of course he wasn't allowed to do that.
I didn't really like Brad the whole season, he tried so hard to be sinsere, but of course he had to for the show. His voice/accent drove me crazy and I am from Texas. But I loved that he didn't choose either girl. They didn't seem right for him from the beginning. If they were one person, it might have worked. DD was too heavy and serious and Jennie was too giggly. They are both beautiful girls and will find someone but the editing on this season showed no love connection. COOL, for Brad to be upfront about his feelings.
Brad sucks
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I haven't read all of the posts, but there seems to be an overwhelming feeling of "Brad sucks" on here. Doesn't anyone realize that this is scripted reality TV? Brad signed on as The Bachelor, so he had to follow the formula through to the final two. I would like to believe that if this whole thing hadn't been set up by ABC, Brad would've let the girls know his true feelings (or lack thereof) a lot sooner. He HAD to film the final episode and all the ones leading up to it: Mexico, hometown dates, etc. Of course the girls are going to think there's something going on in Brad's heart -- he HAS to make them think that! I believe he feels really badly about the way things turned out, and I applaud him for not proposing (ala Andy Baldwin et al.) and further breaking Jenni/DeAnna's heart down the line. It's probably going to be a lot easier for them to get over him now thinking he's a dick than it would have been had he proposed on national TV and given one of them a ring. I don't have evidence of it, but having been on two game shows, I'm reasonably sure that Brad had to sign something that said he'd follow the show through and not reveal his true feelings (e.g., "I love you" or anything else that might indicate who he is going to choose) until the final episode. People, this is TELEVISION! Seriously.
I know this is a little late (sorry I was celebrating my 14th anniversary with my beautiful wife Gwen yesterday) but I wanted to say thanks to Lincee and the rest of you for watching again this season. I look forward to hearing from all of you in the spring!
Happy Turkey day and may god bless all yall's fried turkeys and of course Romo and the Cowboys!
Now take a moment and say your goodbyes... goodbye
If that is really you Chris Harrison - WE LOVE YOU! Here in Big D you're our little star, and asked every question we would have.
Happy Turkey Day to you, too!
Gig 'em!
Lincee,
I'll chime in with your other 1,000,000 (!!!!) fans- you are the BEST part of The Bachelor, and thank you. I would not watch the show if there were no blogs to look forward to, and I even watch the show trying to pick out the things you'll comment on the next day!
As for Brad. Y'all, he really is a nice guy... probably too guarded emotionally, and he is a people pleaser. Having said that, being blunt when you are the "nice guy" is like pulling teeth. I wish to goodness that he would have just verbally slapped DD with an "it's just not there", but instead he said all the wrong things.
In hindsight, it would SUCK to be so edited that the "Bachelor" we see on TV is just a glimmer of the man in real life. It would SUCK to have to find your "soul mate" out of a group of only 25 people... Shoot, I dare say it would be a miracle to find your soul mate in a croud of 25. Am I right?
We can all sit here and analyze and pick the situation apart, heck Brad probably is too, but the reason we are all so flustered about this is because it was a sticky situation. What is the right way to let two women down who you respect and have prodded along in hopes that you yourself would develop feelings?
Getting off my slippery soap box- I hope this experience is something that will help all parties involved become more whole people. That which doesn't kill us only makes us stronger (and smarter), right?
-Another devoted Lincee fan from Austin
Ha! He realized he couldn't live out the rest of his days listening to THAT laugh, or watching the speed blinking contestant... I'm just saying
Anon 10:18, nice to have another Texan blogging and a guys opinion! Go for the bachelor watching party, your friends will bring their friends and you never know, you might hook-up.
I have a question for the guys that write on here. How much time is acceptable for a guy to workout a day? Wihout being labeled self-obsessed? Because Andy last season probably worked out in the gym over three hours a day, and you could tell he was in love with himself, and Brad probably over three. How do these guys eventually get married and have time for their families? I used to date a guy who did that and he'd posture in front of a mirror when I wasn't looking. At first it cracked me up, then it just annoyed the hell out of me.
I wonder if that's a good way to tell if a guy's a keeper, how long he spends each day at the gym beautifying himself.
This is my second post for the season and I hate that it is so late...
Someone said the nudge he gave DD was rude. I thought it to be a cue for her to begin their charade. I may be wrong here but they kept looking at one another last night like...let's lay it on thick for these poor slobs and we can sneak off later when they are not looking!!!
The first time I watched it I watched last night show, my heart broke for my girl DD. But, after it ended and I kept rewinding my DVR (yes, Lincee, DVR and Tivo are awesome tools) I went through the gamut of emotions, from laughter to being pissed that they fooled us!!!
Can I get a witness? Or, am I delusional?
Mo City Girl
I thought Brad was a jerk for doing what he's doing until I read some of the more insightful blogs. It made alot more sense to know he probably had to be confusing coz he cant spell out "I DONT LOVE YOU SORRY THIS SHOW DOESNT WORK FOR ME", and yeah, love is complicated and not BLACK AND WHITE.
4:20 - I'm not sure why blogs have to be witty and sacrastic and fun. Why cant it be insightful and includes examples of other people's lives? Why are we watching these shows, obviously to lurk about other people's more exciting love lives. Obviously all of us are attached to this show one way or another or we wont be wasting our time logging on to read someone else's thought or comment about the show. If you have better time to spend, then you shouldnt be here reading the posts, now would you?
If you dislike sob stories so much, why are you watching to show and seeing all the girls cry as they are leaving?? If your cold heart cant take another heart broken story then you probably shouldnt be here analyzing the rose. Go do your more important thing and make sure everything is witty or sacrastic.
Brad the Cad needs to understand that love is a verb not a NOUN.
I bet even his mamma knows that...too bad she didn't take him aside to explain it to him.
If he felt something strong enough to feel it every day of 2 1/2 months, perhaps it was worth investigating in real life...
He said he had the best time of his life..! (At least till forced to look at the mess!)
Lincee, I hate to break it to you but about 1,000 of those website hits were me! I missed the show and kept looking over to find out what happened! I wanted to take the high road, but Brad had it under construction...
Okay, maybe not quite 1,000...but I could look you in the eye, I could look all of you in the eye and tell you
My God, woman, you are so stinkin' hilarious!!
Thanks for the laughs this season. It has been fun watching the show with girlfriends and saying, "I wonder what Lincee will say about that?!"
Thanks for all the nicknames for everyone as they have caught on and have been used by everyone I know that watches the show.
Thanks for writing this blog. It brings a chuckle (and sometimes a full out belly laugh)to a lot of people.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and I'll see ya on the green bean side. :)
I just "kinda" read all these comments, and boy some are looong! I'm surprised only one mention of the montage of Jennis gma. It was sooo sad! I dont know about you guys but I was literally BAWLING my head off. Like Lincee says, like a 7 yr old! She sure was a character and how she said "dont count on me being there" (wedding). I bet Jenni will feel that for her whole life. Reminding her of Brad forever. Now THATS sad.
Thanks again Lincee! I heart you!
Lincee... have you seen Date Movie? I tivod it last night for fun and just watched the first few mins. They do an "Extreme Bachelor" skit and our Chris Harrison makes a hilarious guest appearance! Catch it if you can!
Brad is a product of his own environment (the bar business)-"love 'em & leave 'em" First its the charm, the conquest,then dump them-typical bar environment. He needs time to grow up.
I watched each episode of the Bachelor this season, for the first time. Brad seemed so charming and irresistible in each episode. When I heard Brad say that he wants a marriage and family like his twin Chad, I thought "this guy means business". It became a lot more real when Brad met the families, though. I liked Bettina's father, he didn't see Brad as husband material. (I thought Bettina was perfect for Brad, too). The overnight in a fantasy spa room thing was a turnoff for me, honestly. If the show is about seriously about compatibility and a lifelong commitment, sex isn't that important. I don't think the sbow needs to get Brad and the final contestants to the bedroom, the "ewwwww" sleaze factor is quite troubling. A nice weekend at the beach, each with their own room, with long talks over dinner or walking, learning more about each other...that's a real chance. Unfortunately, the show didn't create a real chance for Brad or the girls, they all had a script to follow. So, in the end, they are all paid actors, and poor Deanna just didn't get that. I think Jenni, Bettina, Hillary and the other ladies will be able to capitalize on their fame now, if they so choose. Brad will be able to do so as well, once the dust settles.
ABC you are missing the boat here...ABC spinoff show...
Dr. Phil meets the "unchosen" women. Dr. Phil has a bachelor intervention!
Think of the shame Lincee!
i'm gonna show my ignorance here, okay! What does Brad the Cad mean?
1:57 it means Brad is TACKY and RUDE and OTHER CRAPPY BUTT STUFF LIkE THAT!
Ladies:
I watch the show because my girlfriend is obsessed with reality TV and fairy tale love. Seems to me that Brad was the same guy the entire show and regardless of the words he spoke he never acted like he was in love and he never came out and said those three words. He did have real feelings for both of those girls and he also didn't feel he could go the distance with either of them for whatever reason. The divorce rate is 50% and he wanted to be 100% sure or that wasn't going to be good enough for him. I feel bad for both of those girls but i never felt like I was watching a guy fall in love.
I think that both Runner Ups should be next springs Bachlerettes. That way, both would be able to pick their own bachelor and have some control over the outcome!
5:19.....good idea but Jenni is already together again with her ex boyfriend, Russell. You can watch an interview with her at http://www.realitytvspoiler.com In that interview she tells about her renewed relationship with him.
Honestly... I wasn't too suprised that he didn't pick either.
First off HTC Brad is HTC!!! He doesn't need reality TV to find a girl... that he could probably take care of on his own! Leads me to believe he had no intention of making a connection.... just wanted some free advertising for his bar! Does that make him a jerk? Maybe, but it also makes the girls look like desparate idiots... which I hate.
If he was in love with either of them, he wouldn't have had any trouble choosing.... honestly, both girls are better off finding a "real" relationship.
I love you Lincee
In other bachelor/ette news. . .
MARY was ARRESTED for hitting BYRON!
This happened on Wed. the night after they were on the show!
http://www.tmz.com/2007/11/23/bachelor-byron-gets-his-ass-kicked/
I have a great idea: Have DeAnna as the bachelorette and make Brad suffer as one of the 25 guys to try to win her heart. I think he just needs a reality check again, but that he should end up with DeAnna.
You have got to read this about Mary and Byron. Apparently she beat him up!
http://www.tmz.com/2007/11/23/bachelor-byron-gets-his-ass-kicked/
SMC2405
Houston, TX
Did you hear mary got arrested for punching Byron. Chet out TMZ.com for mug shot
Did anyone see this??? OMG!!!! Mary!!!
http://www.tmz.com/2007/11/23/bachelor-byron-gets-his-ass-kicked/
I'm sure you're on it, Lincee!!! ;)
Lincee,
Did you see that Mary who is soooo in love with Byron, was arrested on domestic violence charges this past weekend??? After she professed on national television the other night how much she "loves this man". She decided to show it by getting drunk and punching him in the face!! Maybe she got confused and thought he was Brad the cad:)!
ABC has major damage control to do now if they want the public to continue to participate in their contrived fairy tales anymore.
How about htis twist? Let the Bachelore/ette get all the way down to the final 2....then do it American Idol style and let us vote on who should be the final one. It's apparently more for our entertainment than their happiness anyway.
i just watched the ATFR show on abc.com because i couldn't watch it on tuesday. i was just going to read lincee's blog and the comments which are sometimes just as funny, but it was so intriguing i had to check it out for myself...
i must agree with all those proclaiming brad is a JERK!! it was so frustrating to sit there and watch him talk to those girls. jenni and deanna both had class, but i definitely agreed with those vicious looks brad was getting from the audience. if looks could kill...
anyway, then he has the nerve to tell her he still thinks about her every day??? way to help her broken heart, brad. oh, that's right, you're just worried about YOUR broken heart.
give me a break.
OMG people.. did you see Mary got arrested for hitting Byron.. the night after the rose ceremony!!!
bet she was really pissed that he didn't marry her : )
http://omg.yahoo.com/former-bachelor-contestant-arrested/news/4263
Hey,
Did you all see that Mary was arrested Wednesday night for punching her fiance (I am guessing Byron, but they didn't say his name) in the mouth?
How sad! I wonder what happened between Mary and Byron?
Did anyone read this today on msn.com
http://tv.msn.com/tv/article.aspx?news=285408>1=7703
Police: Former 'Bachelor' Contestant Hit Man
http://www.local6.com/news/14678585/detail.html
So much for ABC trying to bank off of their the success stories!
Holy cow!!! Lincee, I've got some news on Mary-Mary and Butchwax for you... Maybe they aren't working out so well after all!!!
http://omg.yahoo.com/former-bachelor-contestant-arrested/news/4263
Does anyone bother to read the comments before posting?. . . There must be a dozen posts on Mary & Byron as if it is brand-new news.
I'm just saying.
Former 'Bachelor' Contestant Arrested
SEMINOLE, Fla. — A former cheerleader for the Tampa Bay Buccaneers who was proposed to on the reality TV show "The Bachelor" was accused of punching a man she lives with in the mouth, authorities said.
Mary Delgado was taken into custody just after midnight Wednesday on a battery charge and was under the influence of alcohol when she was arrested, according to a police affidavit.
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This photo provided Friday, Nov. 23, 2007 by the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office shows Maribel Liliana Delgado, who also goes by Mary Delgado. Delgado, a former Tampa Bay Buccaneers cheerleader who was proposed to on the reality TV show 'The Bachelor', was arrested Wednesday, Nov. 21 on charges she punched her fiance from the show in the mouth. (AP Photo/Pinellas County Sheriff's Office)
Delgado received a proposal on the show in 2004 from professional bass fisherman Byron Velvick. The two appeared together Tuesday in a special episode of "The Bachelor" called "After the Final Rose."
The police affidavit does not name Delgado's fiance, but says the pair have lived together "as a family" for the last three years. According to sheriff officials, Delgado was released Wednesday afternoon.
She gave her name as Maribel Liliana Delgado. A telephone listing for the pair could not be found.
Seminole is about 10 miles northwest of St. Petersburg.
Former 'Bachelor' contestant arrested
Sat Nov 24, 7:54 AM ET
SEMINOLE, Fla. - A former cheerleader for the Tampa Bay Buccaneers who was proposed to on the reality TV show "The Bachelor" was accused of punching a man she lives with in the mouth, authorities said.
Mary Delgado was taken into custody just after midnight Wednesday on a battery charge and was under the influence of alcohol when she was arrested, according to a police affidavit.
Delgado received a proposal on the show in 2004 from professional bass fisherman Byron Velvick. The two appeared together Tuesday in a special episode of "The Bachelor" called "After the Final Rose."
The police affidavit does not name Delgado's fiance, but says the pair have lived together "as a family" for the last three years. According to sheriff officials, Delgado was released Wednesday afternoon.
She gave her name as Maribel Liliana Delgado. A telephone listing for the pair could not be found.
Seminole is about 10 miles northwest of St. Petersburg.
Anonymous 3:43: LOL. Apparently not.
I'm thinking Mary punched Byron because when she said their wedding would be in *November* she meant THIS year and when they got home, he told her he wanted to do it NEXT year.
Just a little misunderstanding, that's all. :-)
Hi Guys,
This is a more in-depth analysis of the last two episodes with thoughts on Brad's behavior.
http://www.tvgasm.com/shows/the-bachelor/the-bachelor-wh-2-5969.php
Sorry about that link. Try this one: click here
After reading today about the assault charge brought against Mary Delgado THE DAY AFTER SHE PROFESSED HER LOVE FOR BYRON VELVICK on the ATR program, it appears that there is only one happy Bachelor/Bachelorette couple remaining. (I don't think that November wedding is going to happen, either now or any other year.)
I want to know if Mary was arrested from their home or from a public place, like a bar...like did Byron call the cops on her or did someone see that happen and call the cops? Anyone see that in any of the stories? Is he pressing charges, etc??
Crazy! I remember thinking at the time that I was watching the ATFR show, Mary was the one being affectionate to Byron, and he wasn't really grabbing for her hand, saying much, or really looking at her. My first impression based on that show and after seeing the news story is he's not 100% committed to the relationship (they've post-poned their wedding several times) and Mary's extremely frustrated. Frustration like that could lead to losing control...though I'm NOT saying that's any excuse for hitting someone! Anyway, that is just how I'm reading it.
If Mary thought she had trouble finding a man before...it just got a lot harder.
Wow.
Mary Mary arrested for battery!
http://www.azcentral.com/ent/celeb/articles/1124bachelor.html#
response to anon 12:08 and 12:11........I can't stop laughing! I didn't pay that much attention to Brad's comment that DeAnna had been a bartender for 8 years....and she's only 25! TOO FUNNY!
Carolyn - I just read that too!!! Hmm...wonder if they are still getting married now?!?! How ironic of this news to come out after just being on national tv and whatnot!
This is the article I saw... http://omg.yahoo.com/former-bachelor-contestant-arrested/news/4263
http://www.cnn.com/2007/SHOWBIZ/TV/11/26/realityshow.arrest.ap/index.html
To everyone who thinks they hate Brad:
http://katebrockhouse.blogspot.com/
She was a bachelorette in the Lt. Andy (An Officer and a Gentleman) season.
Ok, enough of this boring show recap nonsense. We want the skinny on your meeting on the top of the Empire State Building!
Happy Holidays....
A Fellow Texas
Gig 'Em Aggies and Adios Coach Fran!!
Just read this on Watch with Kristin on E! Brad did it because... the one he really fell for was Bettina!
http://www.eonline.com/gossip/kristin/
I was just going to state the same thing as previous poster about the Bettina gossip.
http://www.eonline.com/gossip/kristin/detail/index.jsp?uuid=e7ee345a-9067-4e4a-b5f5-1aa39ec20174
Lincee, we NEED your input!
Anyone else think this is real? They really never seemed to have chemistry even before Daddy Drama!
Hey Anon 2:38 PM TEXAS
Single?
Saved?
Straight?
The three S's. Right on.
I think you should ask me for my number.
(And Lincee - I figured I'd jump on the 'all about the shame, never about the fame' bandwagon and troll your site for single guys)
!!!
My only comment? I must quote Gilda Radner here - she said it perfectly:
“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.” -Gilda Radner
Sometimes - there just isn't a happy ending - or even an ending, no matter how we try to imagine it.
Sweet dreams from Monterey, everyone!
Toma
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Anybody else see this on eonline? VERY interesting...
It actually wasn't really about the two finalists.
This is what I can tell you, after talking to a very reliable Bachelor insider, who told me the real reason for Brad's unexpected decision to choose neither Jenni nor DeAnna in the season finale. (Yes, while some people spent their holidays gobbling turkey, I spent mine trying to hunt down scoop on this particular TV turkey. What can I say? My need to know is a sickness.)
So, why did Brad freak out and run for the hills? Honestly, it's pretty surprising!
Turns out, it didn't have much to do with The Bachelor's long-lived bed-notch competition I told you about last week, but rather that the girl he really had fallen for had fallen out of the running.
Her name? Bettina.
Says my rock-solid source: "Brad was really into Bettina, who made it to the final four. But when he went to visit her parents, Bettina's father was so awful to him, Brad knew it wouldn't work. So, he was just sort of over the whole thing."
For you who weren't keeping up on The Bachelor this season (and I'll admit, I wasn't and had to do some research), Brad visited Bettina's father's home in the sixth episode of the season. And Daddy Bettina apparently sealed his daughter's fate when he said he was "disappointed" by Brad's lack of a bachelor's degree and his career choice of owning a bar, and then, um, laughed at him.
Sure, a truly smitten guy would look past that, but this is reality TV. Brad had only known her a few weeks, and you have to admit, being humiliated on national television is not exactly the makings of a long-lasting family bond.
Anyway, this new intel sorta paints this Bachelor scandal a whole different shade of crazy, does it not? I'm not sure if this makes Brad's actions better or worse (obviously it's still painful for DeAnna and Jenni, who pretty much had their hearts ripped out and fed to them with a spoon), but it would seem that Brad was stuck between a two-carat rock and a hard place.
I love the black dress that Deeanna wore on the show after the final rose. Does anyone know where I can find one like it? Thanks
Ellen DeGeneres apologized on her talk-show Thursday for calling Bachelor star Brad Womack a "jerk" earlier in the week – and will have him on Friday's show to ask why he picked neither of the two finalists in the show's finale.
During an interview with one of the finalists, DeAnna Pappas, on Tuesday, "I may have called [Womack] a jerk," DeGeneres admitted. "I'm pretty sure I did. Cause I thought he was a jerk. Cause I though he led the girls on."
But soon she regretted her remark. "I went home that night and I thought, 'That's not who I am,' " she said Thursday. "I don't like to judge people. I don't want to call someone a jerk. I have no idea what his story is. ... I do think what he did was wrong, but I do apologize."
DeGeneres said she had learned that Womack, 35, was upset by her comments. "Because he likes me and was a big fan," she said, before adding jokingly, "Now, if I had known that, I would not have called him a jerk."
All may be cleared up Friday, as Womack has been booked for his own appearance on the program.
"I do want to hear what his excuse is," DeGeneres said, "because it was wrong, what he did. Not a jerk, but wrong. Maybe he is a jerk. We'll find out tomorrow, I don't know."
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